The media conscientiously reports high profile cases of sexual child abuse, but the reports lack the facts regarding pedophiles/ephebophiles; the definition of sexual child abuse or the profile of a sex offender. Anyone who knows the sex offender is invited to give their uneducated opinion regarding the matter"and the case becomes a 'he said, she/he said,' case and the myths and misconceptions about sexual child abuse and sex offenders continue to proliferate. The majority of people disbelieve a person of fame or a pillar of the community could possibly sexually abuse children. Not one day goes by without several reports of sexual child abuse in the U.S.--according to government statistics less than 1% are abused by strangers.

Studies reveal 62% of girls and 31% of boys will be sexually abused by age 18"these statistics are low based on health service findings. 80% are sexually abused by a family member; 19% are abused by a trusted adult.

The unbelievable truth: Pedophiles/Ephebophiles conduct themselves as average and ordinary to the world. He or she may be a leader in the church; the community; or business. Pedophiles/Ephebophiles seldom fit a classic stereotype education, socioeconomic status, career or culture. Furthermore, sexual abuse/incest is more difficult to believe or accept when the person we like, admire, love, and/or marry is the perpetrator. This is precisely why those who know the sex offender, fans and the uninformed can unequivocally believe he could not possibly be a Pedophile"sexual attraction to pre-adolescents; or Ephebophile"sexual attraction to adolescents.

Pedophiles/Ephebophiles are cunning predators with a honed mode of operation. They are experts at manipulation, thus escaping adult reality. They feel entitled, justifying their actions as loving; not harming the child. They expend considerable energy maintaining this illusion to themselves and others. They create a persona of goodness beyond reproach. They go to great lengths to present themselves as exemplary people, who love children. Michael Jackson's defense attorney, Mesereau, invoked this convoluted logic in response to the judge's ruling that previous accounts of sexual abuse claims, which were settled, was admissible. Mesereau countered, "He [Jackson] also has spent millions on children with AIDS. We can drown them with examples of where Mr. Jackson has been so benevolent, so generous, so charitable, so giving for good causes, that it will make their theory look silly."

Mesereau's statement exemplifies, that anyone who sees through the perpetrator's facade is met with admonishment and rebuke for being judgmental critical, irrational, racist, out-to-get the person, and/or jealous. The perpetrator is the family and society's emperor with no clothes. "I know my son, and this is ridiculous," Jackson's mother, Katherine Jackson, said in an interview on CBS "The Early Show." She said people who believe Michael is guilty "don't know him." Jackson's father, said his son was beloved around the world but had trouble in the United States because of racism. He said the accuser's motives were clear: "It's about money."

Even more frightening Pedophiles/Ephebophiles do not hold beliefs reflecting society's moral and ethical values. Therefore, coupled with the child's innocence and trust of the abuser usually pressure or violence is seldom required. Thus, the perpetrator can unequivocally state, 'I love children. Never-ever. I could never harm a child or anyone. It's not in my heart. It's not who I am.' --Michael Jackson, 1993.

There is another insidious aspect to Jackson's contact with adolescents: he flaunts the relationship as 'sweet and innocent' admonishing anyone for believing it is sexual. Using the definition of sexual abuse, Jackson's befriending adolescent boys under the guise of helping them with a life threatening illness or recapturing his own lost childhood and/or sleeping with them, albeit, he slept on the floor and the child slept in his bed, is in and of itself sexual abuse.

"Incest is both sexual abuse and an abuse of power. It is violence that does not require force. Another is using the victim, treating them in a way that they do not want or in a way that is not appropriate by a person with whom a different relationship is required. It is abuse because it does not take into consideration the needs or wishes of the child; rather, it meets the needs of the other person at the child's expense. If the experience has sexual meaning for another person, in lieu of a nurturing purpose for the benefit of the child, it is abuse. If it is unwanted or inappropriate for her age or the relationship, it is abuse. Incest [sexual abuse] can occur through words, sounds, or even exposure of the child to sights or acts that are sexual but do not involve her. If she is forced to see what she does not want to see, for instance, by an exhibitionist, it is abuse. If a child is forced into an experience that is sexual in content or overtone that is abuse. As long as the child is induced into sexual activity with someone who is in a position of greater power, whether that power is derived through the perpetrator's age, size, status, or relationship, the act is abusive. A child who cannot refuse, or who believes she or he cannot refuse, is a child who has been violated." (E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors).

Heretofore society has concentrated their efforts entirely on repairing the damage. It is time we focus our attention on prevention before the damage is done. Without vilifying the sex offender, Dr. Neddermeyer has revealed the cruel realities of sexual child abuse and exposed the sex offender's modus operandi to the extent anyone; even young children armed with solid information and well-honed strategies can thwart even the most cunning sex offender.